To bear the sorrow
Rabbi Moshe Leib of Sasov learned to love when he went to an inn and heard one drunken peasant ask another, “Do you love me?”
“Certainly I love you,” replied the second. “I love you like a brother.”
But the first shook his head and insisted, “You don't love me. You don't know what I lack. You don't know what I need.”
The second peasant fell into sullen silence, but Rabbi Moshe Leib understood: “To know the need of men and to bear the burden of their sorrow, that is the true love of men."